Defiling is bad unless it is Jacob who does it.

Genesis 34:2 says, “And when Shechem the son of Hamor the Hivite, prince of the country, saw her, he took her, and lay with her, and defiled her.  34:7 And the sons of Jacob came out of the field when they heard it: and the men were grieved, and they were very wroth, because he had wrought folly in Israel in lying with Jacob's daughter: which thing ought not to be done.”   Now let me get this straight.  Jacob slept with both of Laban’s daughters.  I understand they were married but he was not married to the servants each of Laban’s daughters gave to Jacob to lay with.  They basically gave him slaves who had no choice is this defilement.  How is this different from what happened to Dinah?